Bringing Sexy Back: Parent update week 1

BRINGING SEXY BACK

WEEK ONE:

REAL SEX

Hi Parents:

Every Monday afternoon during the teaching series “Bringing Sexy Back” at theUNDERGROUND we are going to be posting an article online for you as parents to know what we will be teaching that week.  We know Sex and other related topics can be sensitive and we want to do the best job we can to resource and communicate well with you as parents.   So check back each week!

BIG IDEA:  Remember that it was God that created us – male and female.  God himself designed sex; and it was good!  He didn’t design it to be dirty or shameful.  He designed it to be awesome. But he did put some parameters on sex, not to limit our fun, but to protect us.  It’s time to bring God’s kind of sexy back.

Overview of the Teaching: The topic of SEX is something that brings out different emotions in different people: embarrassment, fear, excitement, and confusion – just to name a few.  But the reality is that God designed us and He designed us as sexual beings.  He gave us the parts we have, the desires, and He designed it to be good – in His design, He set up all of this in the context of marriage.

 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 says
¹⁵ Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! ¹⁶ And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” ¹⁷ But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

 ¹⁸ Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. ¹⁹ Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, ²⁰ for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.   (NLT)

The passage is quite clear: we cant go around “one-fleshing ourselves” to multiple people.  We lose the value and intimacy of God’s design for sex.  When we have sex we become one with that person. We take on their life with our own – that is why we connect marriage and sex.

You might be thinking: it’s my body and I can do with it what I want.  And, wouldn’t you know it, this Scripture squashes that idea too?  Verse 19 says: Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit…you do not belong to yourself.

And further, your value and your body are of high standing with God – so much so that He “bought you with a high price.”  He values you. He wants you to value yourself too.  If you’ve already crossed lines you wish you hadn’t, God loves you and wants you to have a second chance…that’s grace.

The question we have to ask ourselves is “Is this what the creator intended for his creation?”  Did God create us to have sex wherever whenever with whoever?  Or did God have something better in mind for his creation?

God made you to long for love and all that goes with it including sex.  Let’s go even so far as to say He made you so it’s hard to wait.  Let’s call it a challenge from the creator.   Sex is tempting in a world saturated to the core with sexual messages.

Sex outside of the context of marriage is an emotional, spiritual and physical hand grenade.  People play with it, pull the pin to see what happens and at some point it will blow up in their faces and their lives can be blasted and shattered without warning.

Sex is an awesome gift God has given us to experience in a marriage context.  Anything outside of that isn’t part of God’s design. However, we also worship a God of grace.  If you’ve already crossed lines that you wish you hadn’t, God wants to give you the opportunity to hit the reset button.  Allow Him to frame your physical life from here on.

Great Resources:

*Technical Virginity by Hailey DiMarco   *Let’s Talk about Sex TMH Series (2007)

*TMH – License to Sin, part 5: Loving Sex (2011) *Real Sex, by Lauren F. Winner

Questions discuss at home:

1. What are you hearing or seeing at school regarding sex.
2. How is sex being represented in the world today?  How is this different than how God created it to originally be?
3. Crossing the line.  What are your thoughts on boundaries?  Where do you/where would you draw the line?  How did you come to your conclusions?  Bruxy once said: “If you feel the need to keep your physical life a secret from the world, something is wrong.”   Thoughts?
4. What do you think God has to say about Sex through the Bible? 
5. How does your physical relationship with someone affect your life now?  How might it affect your future relationships or marriage (if you choose to marry)?